Wednesday, June 4, 2008

If I clean something and my DH doesn't notice, does it count?

I hate cleaning. Like you would not believe. My first job at 14 was dishwashing. I hate washing dishes. My mom was a single mom, so every day after school and every weekend I had a list of things I had to do before I could play. And she CHECKED. I had to redo half the list all the time. So I hate cleaning. And I am a kind of messy person. Not dirty per se, at least I like to think so, I just have STUFF. I like my stuff. I have lots of it. I knit. I have yarn. lots of yarn. I leave my knitting all over. I spin, kinda. I sew. I do puzzles. I have stuff all over the freaking place. And quite frankly I LIKE having my stuff all over the place. I like to be surrounded by the things I do and love to do. I like to look at it even if I am not working on it.
But I still hate to clean. So even if I have a bunch of stuff laying around, dishes accumulate, laundry doesn't get done, the lawn needs to be mown, the recycling needs to go out, etc. I hate that crap. If it was just me, I would do it when I ran out of forks, underwear, got geese living in my lawn, etc. But it's not just me, and DH hates messy house. With a freaking 7 am on a saturday cleaning the litter box because it smells passion. (Mulder doesn't care that his box is dirty so I don't either)
So my question is, if I do some cleaning, like put the dishes away and throw a load in the laundry and DH doesn't notice, does it still count? I feel like I want my cleaning points or something. At least points for doing something just to make DH happy because I hate hate hate hate cleaning. When he comes home do I bombard him with the stuff I want points for?
Because, seriously, what is marriage if you don't try to compromise by doing the crap you hate to do (like watch a girly movie on dvd with me) just to make the other person happy?


Knit Purl Gurl said...

Is this like, 'If a tree falls in the woods..' ?! Hee-Hee! I feel the same way. I grew up with an OCD mom (not exaggerating - she has actually been diagnosed with OCD) who obsessed about cleaning... I spent most afternoons after school cleaning and doing laundry. We also did not have a dishwasher, so I was the designated dishwasher. To this day, my house is in never-ending chaos. There is always stuff everywhere. I hate that I am not tidier, but am glad I am not obsessive about cleaning. DH always complains that I won't let people come over and see our messy house because I am embarrassed by it (which I am - residual OCD).. But apparently it doesn't bother me enough to spend hours upon hours cleaning. DH & kids are slobs and they won't help clean up. I 'straighten' up the house once a week so that we don't live in filth, but I refuse to spend every minute obsessing over dusty knick knacks and spotless windows..

Mulderknitter said...

Thank you so much for sharing! I love your story! Good to know I am not the only one that would rather not clean